Saturday, August 1, 2020

5 reasons School Shouldn't Resume This year

5 reasons school shouldn't resume this year. I'd state them based on my scale of preference.

5 - It's said that time is money, I sincerely believe that the more time they give us, the more money we would make. Y'all know how financially exhausting Nigeria school system is? Especially now that the economy is bad and the lockdown was just lifted few weeks ago. If no student will say it, I will. 

Dear, Federal Government, our house rent has expired, we didn't plant any rice, beans or foodstuffs in school and petty dues won't pay themselves. Our parents just started work recently and they are trying to bounce back. We've been busy spending from our savings and no means of valid income. 

The cost of living right now isn't friendly for the average Nigeria students that come from a struggling family. Not all students are from Rich homes and can afford to double bill their parents. Most students train themselves in school and in this lockdown, they weren't allowed to work. Some come from a family where the food stuff they take to school is always bought on credit to talk of double billing their parents. 

I believe you didn't put the poor masses into consideration when you chose to use something as delicate as covid-19 as a propaganda to achieve your personal goals my dear federal government. Maybe you did, by sharing pathetic palliatives? Wehdone.

4 - Some of us started an online class because motivational speakers didn't allow us to rest with their make sure you come out of the lockdown with a skill. Look at me, no look at you, did you finish the online class? Please, I don't want to come out of this lockdown without a million skills, give me more time. 

I promise to finish it this year. Maybe that certificate I will get online is the only thing I need to land myself a jaw dropping job. Those that got their certificates already are still waiting for jobs to land so that they will see money to run things in school. I lie you not.

3 - It's not like I'm pained oh but e no funny oh. Since I entered University, I've not seen somebody that bought gala, biscuit or meet pie and finished it alone in my class. They will so cut cut, take take till the person that bought it will be left with a red eye. How na? See, everybody needs to make enough money before coming back to school so that person go for fit finish one Fesco biscuit only him for inside class.

2 - Those that keep telling us "Who school epp" say street is legit and they are just in school for the cert. They talk say street can enrich them and the ones that carry school for head will be under them in the future. Please, you know say street tight for this lockdown, abeg don't let them resume school without achieving their Benefit boys dream. E get some lecturers they wan settle their matter for school with money, no put San San for their garri. Abeg.

1 - Most importantly, people like me have moved on with our lives. We've lost hope of resuming school this year so we are now learning trade, tailoring, mechanic and stuffs. That's not even the problem, the thing is that our brain have knock engine. It will take the whole of this year to open it if not, if not...

With these few points of mine, I believe I've been able to convince you and not confuse you that it's better for school to resume next year. Look at my above points, is this sense what I will use to carry first class?
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Friday, July 24, 2020

Thoughts That Keep Me Awake At Night

I decided to make this post by this time of the night, because some of us nursing this particular thought stay awake through the night.

In the last quarter of 2016, I met an old acquaintance at a fast-food joint. I was already eating before I noticed him and moved over to his table.

A jolly good fellow who always cracked everyone up with jokes and good vibes. I asked how life has been treating him but he was reluctant to answer.

"Beck we dey. We just dey rough am dey go."

He was served and as we ate, we reminisced on old days and life. Then suddenly he blurted out; "It is good to know oneself and believe in your journey."

"Have you turned to pastor Moti? What do you mean?"

"Beck you won't understand. If I told you where I was coming from now, would you believe?"

"You have always spent your free time in hotels and expensive waists. So which one did you shut down recently?"

He washed his hands and told me he was serious about what he was about to say.

"So where did you go?"

He visited a native doctor his friend referred him to who would "wash his destiny" so he could hammer. But before the washing, he insisted the man should divine into his future and tell him what he saw.

"Beck my guy, the man told me I had a good star and I would succeed, but I will have to struggle hard. But if I don't want to struggle, he will make the road easy for me."

After some seconds, I paid him and thanked him for his consultation.

"Did you do the washing?"

"No I didn't. Since he already knew I had potential, let me go through hell and work hard for my life. I don't want to invoke spirits I don't know about."

Two weeks before the lock down this year, we were chatting and he told me he has built a duplex for rent in Asaba. And other good things happening for him.

I was so happy for him. It took a long time coming but he learnt through the hard times.

As you're going through hard times now and thinking of easy ways to pass out, remember there's always a price for the short cut.

See through your life's process and you'll be eternally grateful you did.

It may not always be easy, but you can always reach out for any emotional or career related stress you're going through.

Till we get to the Promised Land, I shall be waiting for when you will pass me a glass of water and thank God for the gift of grace for the race.
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Thursday, July 23, 2020

Self Esteem, A Self-Struggle That Awaits Everyone

Good morning everyone. Here again for the dreaded topic "SELF ESTEEM".

So, basically everyone who read through the last post has come inbox at a point or the other to ask if I am a psychologist. Lol, well, I will answer that question here and now.
I am Ada Paul, 300 level student of Funai, your favorite Nwanyiakara and of course your sure plug for better small chops and healthy drinks. Looking at this introduction, you can notice that there no trace of “psychologist” in there, neither am i aspiring to be one yet I am able to talk about self-esteem and with vast in-depth knowledge i am here to tell you how.

You all know what they say about experience right? “Experience is the best teacher!”
so, what if I told you I battled “low self-esteem” for a better part of my life? What if I told you there was a time I felt intimidated in the midst of classmates and friends? What if I told you that there was a time I felt like I was not enough? Lol, it’s pretty unbelievable for everyone including people who have known me for a very long time. Well, take your time and read with me…

I am the first child in a family of 4, eldest and I must add what you would call “the Shrek” of the house. My 3 other siblings as seen in the previous pictures are beautiful and spontaneous. They had turn heads at every place they entered and at whatever time, and then there was me who you had assume is but a boy. At 18, I looked like a teenage 15years old boy all flat chested and butt less. 

For people who knew me then, they would attest to the fact that I was always “extra”. I wasn’t going all out to do those things because I loved them, nah, I did most of them because I felt I needed a lot of “patching to be catching” it’s a rhyme yeh! Lol.

I was practically the only one whose face had gone sour in the house. I have a lot of blemishes on my face and my skin too, so when I say I know self-esteem not by reading books or extracts from goggle you should understand that it’s because I have “experiential knowledge”.

Now, the only good thing I had was my intelligence. I am very brainy, crafty and creative, so most of the time I try to bottle up and squash fear. But, this is low “self”- esteem we’re talking about, something that comes from inside of you and then gets portrayed outside. It is more of “your personal evaluation” of yourself than it is about people’s evaluation of you. I felt undeserving, I felt unlovable, I felt soooo uncomfortable in my own skin. Low self esteem takes the better part of you and shuts you up in a box. It delt so much with me and made me become edgy and sensitive.

Sensitive to small talks, actions and whatever it Is you can think of. You begin to read meanings into everything, begin to see more of the negative things of life than the positive. At this stage, condemnation sets in and boom! You have a person who feels he/she is undeserving of anything good. i fought o, "i fought the good fight of faith"🤣 and i am only going to help you fight yours if you're willing.😊😊😊

If you read to this point, I would want to say a big thank you to you because, your feedbacks are what keeps me motivated to complete this series. We will stop here for today, drop your comments in the comment section, we will continue tomorrow 9pm.
I love you all.
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Thoughts on Sharing Your Story With Someone

Have you ever regretted opening up to someone? Sharing your sad or happy story with the person and hoping they'd understand but they didn't?

Some of the calls I receive in the night come from people who just want to talk to someone. Someone who is not a friend but they trust I can give them good advise given my background and training.

The first thing I do is to listen all the way. Since I am not a friend, I'm not tempted to talk or say to them; "No this can't be you", "Don't say that", "That's wrong" or any other statements that make people feel bad for opening up.

And many times, people just need someone to talk to. Someone who won't hold it against them and someone who probably swore a professional oath to protect such conversations.

Friends don't subscribe to such rules. And that is why when there's a falling out, what you shared in confidence because you needed a listening ear may be used against you. This is sad. Real sad. And you may never have control over the narrative.

Because I understand we all need someone to talk to about our career choices, relationships, business, life issues, legal problems and the often long nights of thinking; I am putting together, a perfect frame work that will give you access to me.

Honing my skills as a lawyer and managing Tales of Nigerians, the largest real life story sharing platform in Nigeria has opened my eyes to this need.

We all need someone who we can open up to, gain valuable advice for any issues we may be going through in life and draw a professional line in the relationship.

In the coming days, I'll share more insight about this new counselling sessions I'll introduce and hopefully, you will find it useful for your life.

Friends can be good and have the best of intent while the going is good and smooth, but you never know what will happen when there's a falling out.

Having handled plethora of issues myself, I can assure you in that midnight moment you need someone to talk to, you need a counsellor more than you need a friend.

I do throw in couple of jokes during my interactions so I'll probably change your mood from sad to happy if you're sad. That's an add-on service...LOL.

Life is already tough and complicated, so you need all the friends you can get. A counsellor can handle the rest while you build your friendships for greater good tomorrow.

Right here, you'll soon get a partner to talk through your life's experiences, challenges and wins soon.


Till we get to the Promised Land, I shall be waiting for when you will pass me a glass of water and thank God for the gift of grace for the race.
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Sunday, June 28, 2020

14 Things School Won't Teach You:

Hello, good evening Friends, before I begin, let me begin by giving you this free advice. Don't get carried away with social media because nobody posts their failures here. Ignore the fake bling-bling and photoshop beauty with filters. Be yourself and embrace your life, because even if you attend the most or one of the most expensive schools in the world today, there are many things which school won't tech you and they are as follows

15 Things School Won't Teach You:

1. How to develop empathy and integrity.

2. How to cold call.

3. How to sell.

4. Negotiation skills

5. Emotional intelligence

6. How to invest your. money

7. How to stay mentally healthy.

8. How to interview and pick great candidates.

9. How to prospect for new clients without being a douche.

10. How to be grateful.

11. How to truly listen.

12. How to fire a person.

13 How to and when to hire.

14 The true value of time

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