Have you ever regretted opening up to someone? Sharing your sad or happy story with the person and hoping they'd understand but they didn't?
Some of the calls I receive in the night come from people who just want to talk to someone. Someone who is not a friend but they trust I can give them good advise given my background and training.
The first thing I do is to listen all the way. Since I am not a friend, I'm not tempted to talk or say to them; "No this can't be you", "Don't say that", "That's wrong" or any other statements that make people feel bad for opening up.
And many times, people just need someone to talk to. Someone who won't hold it against them and someone who probably swore a professional oath to protect such conversations.
Friends don't subscribe to such rules. And that is why when there's a falling out, what you shared in confidence because you needed a listening ear may be used against you. This is sad. Real sad. And you may never have control over the narrative.
Because I understand we all need someone to talk to about our career choices, relationships, business, life issues, legal problems and the often long nights of thinking; I am putting together, a perfect frame work that will give you access to me.
Honing my skills as a lawyer and managing Tales of Nigerians, the largest real life story sharing platform in Nigeria has opened my eyes to this need.
We all need someone who we can open up to, gain valuable advice for any issues we may be going through in life and draw a professional line in the relationship.
In the coming days, I'll share more insight about this new counselling sessions I'll introduce and hopefully, you will find it useful for your life.
Friends can be good and have the best of intent while the going is good and smooth, but you never know what will happen when there's a falling out.
Having handled plethora of issues myself, I can assure you in that midnight moment you need someone to talk to, you need a counsellor more than you need a friend.
I do throw in couple of jokes during my interactions so I'll probably change your mood from sad to happy if you're sad. That's an add-on service...LOL.
Life is already tough and complicated, so you need all the friends you can get. A counsellor can handle the rest while you build your friendships for greater good tomorrow.
Right here, you'll soon get a partner to talk through your life's experiences, challenges and wins soon.
Smile.
Till we get to the Promised Land, I shall be waiting for when you will pass me a glass of water and thank God for the gift of grace for the race.
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